Counselor’s Corner March 2013
As I sit here to type this I am smiling. I don’t want to brag, but I really think I might have the best job in the world! Right now the second graders have been popping their heads in to show off their St. Patrick’s Day hats. Some of them are pretty creative, bordering on outrageous. So, in the spirit of St. Patrick’s Day, I’ll start with a quote: “May your blessings outnumber the shamrocks that grow, and may trouble avoid you wherever you go.” –Irish blessing
Don’t forget that we continue to have students from Brother Rice offering tutoring session for St. Hugo children in 4th through 8th grade. The sessions are held on Thursday afternoons from 3:30 until 4:30 and are a wonderful way to get a little extra help for your student. The Brother Rice tutors not only tutor our kids, but also are excellent representatives of their school and wonderful role models for St. Hugo students.
Project TEAM has been busy. They helped with the computer and small electronics recycling event in mid-March and had a Lenten tree up in the hall where children could create flowers and hang them to acknowledge a kind act they had witnessed over Lent. Additionally, Project TEAM and the 5th grade “Nifty Knitters” also helped fill and hide plastic Easter eggs for the younger grades. As always, Project TEAM has also helped in the front office before and after school, recycled paper for all grades, and sent birthday cards and well wishes to St. Hugo teachers. Meanwhile, the Nifty Knitters made Valentine’s Day treats for their class.
Finally, I want to leave you another “Parenting Tip of the Month”. I’ve had a few parents inquire as to what they can to help their child with behavior problems at school. Most parents immediately want to punish their child for problem behaviors. But generally, punishment for bad behavior will only make your child feel terrible about himself and prolong the difficulty by further shutting him down.
It helps to think about what may be stressing out your child. Could it be a big change like divorce or death in the family, or small stressors over the long term, like teasing from an older sibling or pressure from a critical parent? To get your child to tell you what is really bothering him, he needs to feel safe, loved and close. He must feel certain that he will be listened to without judgment or interruption. However, once he is able to tell you what is bothering him, be ready for a tantrum or angry outburst about even very small things as the little volcano inside him is finally released.
I recently heard a story about a 3rd grade student who was furious at her Mom for remarrying a new man years after her divorce. The student cried and screamed and tried kicking her Mom as her Mom tried to get her child to express her feelings about her remarriage. After her outburst, Mom and daughter had a snack in the kitchen and Mom later heard her in her room singing, “I love my Mommy and …” Issues at school and her daughter’s poor grades also dramatically improved for this 3rd grader after she felt free to express herself. It may require listening to the same issues many times, but you can change a child’s who life by simply, quietly, listening to them.
Let me leave you with a quote:
“Listen earnestly to anything your children wants to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.“ -Catherine M. Wallace~